You know the type, the ones who call you up and ask you what they can do to please you only to state they are looking to be a personal slave and not pay for your time. Boys don't. Just don't.
We gals spend alot of time and money to be sure we are in front of the right audience and that audience is one that pays to play.
I'm not saying never to ask a professional Femdom to become a slave because it does happen however, this does not happen over night nor should you go in with this expectation and you certainly should not look at her ads,website, tribute and professionally done photographs and say you want to be a personal slave.
In fact, you've basically have just said that her toys, wardrobe, time and expertise is worth zilch.
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Don't worry! Now that you see how badly you've fucked up; let's focus now and where to go to find the type of dominatrix you're looking for. There are many type of dominatrices as there are people but, we are going to touch on the umbrella terms used to describe them.
A) Lifestyle- You can be both a lifestyle and a professional dominatrix however, those who describe themselves as lifestyle usually DO NOT charge a tribute advertise their services on advertising venues nor do they usually charge a tribute. Lifestyle dominatrices can be found on websites such as Fetlife and CollarSpace. Those who are active in the BDSM community can be found at a local munch, public dungeon, dungeon parties etc. You will be expected to show the same amount of respect as you do any vanilla woman or more if you value your testicles.
After all, just because she is a dominatrix does not mean that chivalry should die in the midst of your fetish seeking fever. I highly recommend joining your local group on Fetlife to find these events and play parties. Some local dungeons offer classes and groups for would-be submissive to learn about how to stay safe while still getting your freak on.
B) Professional Dominatrix- These ladies are the ones who some of you keep pissing off with your "offers" of servitude. The Professional Dominatrix is a exactly that a professional who is running a business and that business is BDSM. What is offered here is a pay for play D/s relationship meaning that there is always a tribute which is usually per hour and without sex.
A pleasant way for those who want BDSM as a part of their life without strings attached. Also a great way to experiment in a controlled environment or explore fetishes you are curious about.
This type of dominatrix usually is at the top of her game and has the skill set to cater to many different types of fetishes, has invested time and money into her craft. Some do not play outside of the dungeon and some are very members of the BDSM community as well as teachers or mentors.
The fact that she has gone through the time and effort to do this should always be taken into consideration when you decide to make contact. Her time is money. Appointments with her should be treated with the same respect as your vanilla ones.
If the option for personal servitude is there she will tell you but don't expect it will be offered to just because you contact her and simply ask. Her submissives pay to serve her so you "offering" to serve without tribute is an exercise in futility.
Last, but certainly not least
You may go.
